We in APN never met Wuod-Maggero, and yet we now feel we know him after exchanges of comments for and against the cultural and traditional practices that the Kenyan population in Sweden had in mind, to guide his last days on earth.
People in Stockholm who knew him well have continued to attack one another, because they differ on what happened to his body after he died.
We understand the feelings that has continued to flourish on both sides – those for and those against.
The problem we see, however, is that the debate immediately turned tribal. Some Luo-rised it while others Kikuyu-rised when they attacked one another.
For us, it has been important to let all comments get across whether for or against, because being the media, we are neutral in the case and wanted all to get the opportunity to air their views.
However, and as neutral as we would like to be, we hold the opinion that his wife has the right to take decisions and correctly so, to have cremated his body according to Wuod-Maggero’s wishes.
In marriage, when couples are happy, they tend to enter into agreements as in Wuod-Maggero’s case of the will that he wanted to be cremated. Who are we to doubt their house or bedroom agreements? Couples do not write everything down.
The people should respect her decision and let things rest now, because a continued debate is hurting, adding to the pain already caused by his death.
The best thing to do now is to show the family respect, and let them go through the healing. People should not struggle to have winners or to have the last word.
We have read that Wuod-Maggero had another wife in Kenya. This may be true to the point, but then again it is a fact that the laws in Sweden does not allow polygamous marriage.
Wuod-Maggero is said to have lived with his Swedish wife for over 43 years. The family has children in Sweden, and the only right thing to do is to have his remains where the children can be able to visit as much as they want to, instead of distant separation. Should the children want to visit his grave yearly, are they expected to travel to Kenya for that?
Things are changing in this modern world. In Norway, people used to send remains of the dead to Africa. Now things are different. There are many who get buried in Norway when they die, because they have lived in Norway long, and have established their own families away from Africa where their parents live.
Kenyans in Sweden should not continue thinking that all those who die in future will be send to Africa because of the culture.
There are many comments that we have received from people who are calling for closure on this case because continued debating is hurting the next of kin. We agree with their call and we hope we can all put this to closure and let the family mourn their loved one.
Instead of fighting and finger-pointing trying to get the losers and winners, it is best to educate on culture and traditions, but having in mind at the same time that when Africans start inter-marrying, they must expect that they have to meet the new world 50-50 if their spouse is not from Africa.
We have read in the media that others accuse the Kenya Embassy in Sweden for having refused to intervene. Surely, this was not a crisis for any government. This was and is a family matter that the government cannot simply jump in and cause change.
Kenyans should use more of their energy to progress and do their best to unite.
We have read some comments urging Kenyans in Sweden to be united like in other parts of the world where Kenyans are united. This, we think, is not right to say because even in Norway, Kenyans are not united at all.
Almost all African countries in Norway have stable organisations apart from the Kenyans. Kenyans have formed and disbanded their organisation more than 15 times, because of tribal feelings, jealousy, hate and self desire.
The Liberated Young Kenyans in Sweden may seem as a challenge to the elderly there. This is what the comments already exchanged seems to suggest. The best that should happen is for the elderly Kenyans in Sweden and elsewhere in the world, to embrace the young and work together towards a richer Kenyan culture abroad instead of dictating everything to them.
When it is politics, many say the old should let the young people to rule instead of re-cycling the old like in many governments in Africa, and yet when culture and traditions are the themes, many do not want the young to have a say. They expect them to obey blindly, a thing that is of the past.
APN wishes well to the Maggero family in this trying, and hope they are now left in peace. As is said everything has a beginning and the end, the debate has lasted long enough and it had a beginning that must have an end.
By Korir,
Published by African Press in Norway, APN, africanpress@chello.no, tel +47 932 99 739