At this age she is already a mother of four children. To many women having such number of children is a blessing.
One would however ask as to whether Chibwe also considers her four children as a blessing indeed.
Chibwe and her four children are today residents of Kaloko Village also referred to as Kalimanshi in Chief Chama.
Chief Chama’s land is in Kawambwa district and those who reach this place connect from Kawambwa to Chief Mushota we Lombe and then take a canoe to cross Pambashe River whose source is Ulufubu streams.
To those who have no strength to hold their breath for some good 45 minutes while sunk into the dugout canoe can never be privileged to view the nature Pambashe river offers as they cross the vast valleys also known as amasapa in the local language.
In this case one can then use a vehicle and should be prepared to drive around Pambashe river from Mushota We Lombe heading southeast until they meet a point where they have to cross a small bridge mounted near the source of the waters. The Ulufubu Bridge, according to most people in the area, was mounted a long time ago during Dr Kenneth Kaunda’s reign and they say it is no longer reliable.
This method of reaching Chief Chama by road takes too long as one has to cover a long bush distance before they branch off the road heading to Luwingu and then come to Chibote Mission.
After leaving Chibote Mission one would count several prominent villages while driving on a one lane bumpy and dusty road before reaching Kaloko’s Village where Chibwe and her four toddlers are squatting in what she terms a borrowed grass thatched house.
Chibwe was once married to Francis Chibwe from the same chiefdom but of another village. Like per local tradition after getting married to her namesake, Margaret Chibwe followed her husband to his village where they settled until they were blessed with three children.
Albeit Chibwe encountered some hurdles during her marriage, she accepted them as common in every union of two married persons.
Even whenever she suspected her husband of having extra marital relations with other women she was comfortable that she was at least married and everyone new her for that.
It was all well with Margaret Chibwe until 19th May 2003 when she received the most surprising news she has ever seen in her life.
Narrating her story in Bemba on the night of 2nd June 2007 Chibwe said: “My husband left me on 19th May 2003. He left me for the sole purpose of inheriting a widow of a relative who died.”
To Chibwe’s surprise her husband abandoned her with their three children and concentrated on the inherited widow.
Continuing her narration amid tears Chibwe said: “This is the most difficult life any young women can ever experience and I wish this does not happen to anyone else. My husband never returned to our matrimonial home for three years and I had to fend for my children and myself. It appears he was encouraged by some of his relatives to take care of the inherited widow and not me.”
The slender, short, still younger looking but hard working Chibwe added that she has taken a challenge to clothe her children, grow food for them, build a house for them, educate them should she afford and most of all strive to provide both fatherly and motherly love.
“After staying away from us for three years my husband returned in 2006 and because of people’s intervention I accepted him in. Honestly I was convinced that now he had come back but I was surprise that after he impregnated me for the fourth child you see on me he went back to the inherited woman who warned him never to return to me again,” Chibwe shed tears as she said this.
When she told Francis about he pregnancy he denied it and called her a prostitute.
“His relatives joined him in denouncing and branding me a prostitute. His relatives came one day while it was raining and dragged me and the three children out of our matrimonial house. I carried my children and walked through the rain to a village close to here called Sashi were people offered us a small house to sleep,” Chibwe said.
She said when she entered the borrowed house there she had literally nothing except the little clothes for the children and herself.
Chibwe said life was strange in a new village and with no fields of food to feed her children she lived with great shame.
She received every help offered by anyone and visited people of Kaloko’s village, where she was born and bred who also helped her in various ways.
“It was difficult to find food for the three children while pregnant. I had to work both for food to feed the children and clothes for the new baby. When I sent for my husband that I had a new baby he responded that he had nothing to do with the pregnancy or baby. The new wife also sent a word that if he ever hears that her husband had seen her she would fry him alive,” she said.
Just when Chibwe thought she was fitting into the society at Sashi Village, one evening the owners of the house she borrowed brought her stunning news.
“They came and asked me to leave the house saying that they now what to use it for. Because of the pregnancy and lack of resources I could not manage to build our own house to cushion my family against this new development,” she added.
Because Chibwe had no where to go and stay she stayed in the borrowed house until the owner removed her by force again in the rain.
After being thrown into the cold, Chibwe staggered with her small children and pregnancy across the next village, Kaloko where again a Good Samaritan, Ms Rosaria Chansa well known as Bana Regina, offered her an empty house to stay.
Chibwe and her four children are still staying in this borrowed house at Kaloko’s Village with hope that one day the small baby will get off her back to enable her construct a own house.
“It is sad to lose a mother. I now think that perhaps it is better for a father to die first and not a mother because if my mother was still alive I would have had a bit of dignity left in me,” cried out Chibwe.
Chibwe’s mother died some yeas ago. She has a father and a brother both married and living within Chief Chama’s chiefdom.
In fact Chibwe’s father is the current rightful headman of Kaloko’s Village but he has abandoned his traditional role and shifted to another village where he has inherited a widow.
Mr Kalinima has left the village in the hands of a matrilineal relative whom many villagers consider inappropriate to handle village affairs well.
Chibwe’s father well knows as Mr Kalimina has never bothered to intervene in the marital problems his daughter has been experiencing for years despite being sent for.
She now considers both her father and mother dead and being of no sister or brother.
According to Chibwe the mother to her husband is the architect of the idea that he inherits a dead man’s wife.
It is well know and documented that Zambia is one of the countries in the sub-Saharan Africa grappling with the problem of HIV/AIDS.
The country has also joined efforts aimed at mitigating the impact of this scourge on its citizens.
Various methods have been used to disseminate messages on the adverse impact of the HIV/AIDS and how one can avoid catching the virus.
It has also been realised that traditional leaders holds a strategic position in the country as they are custodians of all traditions, cultural values and preside over millions of the country’s citizens.
This is the reason why most organisations engaged in fighting AIDS have targeted chiefs, village headmen and other traditional leaders to help identify and discard or relax on certain traditions such as widow inheritance.
Widow inheritance is identified as one clear way HIV/AIDS can be passed on to uninfected persons. This is why institutions such as the winded up Zambia Integrated Health Programme (ZIHP) embarked on a robust campaign targeting traditional leaders to identify these traditions and find a way of avoid them.
Chief Chama is one of the traditional leaders in Zambia that have received appropriate knowledge on the danger of wife or husband inheritance – sexual cleansing.
It is however sad that despite such efforts women such as Margaret Chibwe and many other should be still recording as victims of sexual cleansing.
“Sexual cleansing here is going on and it appears village headmen are the ones condoning it because if Chief Chama knew about it he would have stopped it,” added Chansa Chishala, another abandoned mother of five.
Chaishala joined Chibwe in appealing to organisations based in towns to spread their activities of sensitising people especially women on various life serving initiatives to rural communities.
“We want women organisations based in town to come here and help women exploitation. Men here just go to inherited other women and they marry them leaving you with five children suffering with no one to fend for them,” Chishala said.
Chishala and Chibwe knows many other women, some with grandchildren, who are now abandoned by husbands who have inherited other young widows.
“We urge government and organisations helping exploited citizens especially women not to end up in Kawambwa. You must come to Mushota and cross Pambashe river to Chief Chama to see for yourselves what life is made of here,” the two abandoned mothers offered their last appeal.
Mr Joshua Kabaso who lives at Chitala’s Village feared the cases of Chibwe and Chishala will remain rife in the chiefdom as long education remains at its lowest ebb.
“How can we stop the untold exploitation of women particularly the girl child in our area where education is never a priority. Look at that Chitala Primary School which was opened in 1966 but it is like a bush camp. There is one retired teacher manning that school and the situation is common in all schools around Chief Chama’s chiefdom,” lamented Mr Kabaso.
Mr Kabaso said majority grade seven students of Chitala Primary school can not even read the alphabet.
“We cry to the government and other stakeholders to come and help us here in Chief Chama because ignorance is killing us and our children. What unforgivable sin have we committed to all the governments that have existed after Kaunda to deserve such abandonment,” Mr Kabaso asked.
Mr Kabaso believes that without a quick action to improve the education standards in the area, Chama will remain in its current quagmire and cases like that of Chibwe and Chishala will make daily stories.
He said since schools opened this term on 7th May 2007 pupils of Chitala Primary have not learnt any lesson because there are no teachers to teach.
By John Mwape, API/APN correspondent in Zambia
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