We in APN never met Wuod-Maggero, and yet we now feel we know him after exchanges of comments for and against the cultural and traditional practices that the Kenyan population in Sweden had in mind, to guide his last days on earth.
People in Stockholm who knew him well have continued to attack one another, because they differ on what happened to his body after he died.
We understand the feelings that has continued to flourish on both sides – those for and those against.
The problem we see, however, is that the debate immediately turned tribal. Some Luo-rised it while others Kikuyu-rised when they attacked one another.
For us, it has been important to let all comments get across whether for or against, because being the media, we are neutral in the case and wanted all to get the opportunity to air their views.
However, and as neutral as we would like to be, we hold the opinion that his wife has the right to take decisions and correctly so, to have cremated his body according to Wuod-Maggero’s wishes.
In marriage, when couples are happy, they tend to enter into agreements as in Wuod-Maggero’s case of the will that he wanted to be cremated. Who are we to doubt their house or bedroom agreements? Couples do not write everything down.
The people should respect her decision and let things rest now, because a continued debate is hurting, adding to the pain already caused by his death.
The best thing to do now is to show the family respect, and let them go through the healing. People should not struggle to have winners or to have the last word.
We have read that Wuod-Maggero had another wife in Kenya. This may be true to the point, but then again it is a fact that the laws in Sweden does not allow polygamous marriage.
Wuod-Maggero is said to have lived with his Swedish wife for over 43 years. The family has children in Sweden, and the only right thing to do is to have his remains where the children can be able to visit as much as they want to, instead of distant separation. Should the children want to visit his grave yearly, are they expected to travel to Kenya for that?
Things are changing in this modern world. In Norway, people used to send remains of the dead to Africa. Now things are different. There are many who get buried in Norway when they die, because they have lived in Norway long, and have established their own families away from Africa where their parents live.
Kenyans in Sweden should not continue thinking that all those who die in future will be send to Africa because of the culture.
There are many comments that we have received from people who are calling for closure on this case because continued debating is hurting the next of kin. We agree with their call and we hope we can all put this to closure and let the family mourn their loved one.
Instead of fighting and finger-pointing trying to get the losers and winners, it is best to educate on culture and traditions, but having in mind at the same time that when Africans start inter-marrying, they must expect that they have to meet the new world 50-50 if their spouse is not from Africa.
We have read in the media that others accuse the Kenya Embassy in Sweden for having refused to intervene. Surely, this was not a crisis for any government. This was and is a family matter that the government cannot simply jump in and cause change.
Kenyans should use more of their energy to progress and do their best to unite.
We have read some comments urging Kenyans in Sweden to be united like in other parts of the world where Kenyans are united. This, we think, is not right to say because even in Norway, Kenyans are not united at all.
Almost all African countries in Norway have stable organisations apart from the Kenyans. Kenyans have formed and disbanded their organisation more than 15 times, because of tribal feelings, jealousy, hate and self desire.
The Liberated Young Kenyans in Sweden may seem as a challenge to the elderly there. This is what the comments already exchanged seems to suggest. The best that should happen is for the elderly Kenyans in Sweden and elsewhere in the world, to embrace the young and work together towards a richer Kenyan culture abroad instead of dictating everything to them.
When it is politics, many say the old should let the young people to rule instead of re-cycling the old like in many governments in Africa, and yet when culture and traditions are the themes, many do not want the young to have a say. They expect them to obey blindly, a thing that is of the past.
APN wishes well to the Maggero family in this trying, and hope they are now left in peace. As is said everything has a beginning and the end, the debate has lasted long enough and it had a beginning that must have an end.
By Korir,
Published by African Press in Norway, APN, africanpress@chello.no, tel +47 932 99 739
One of the founding members of Liberated Young Kenyans in Sweden.
Posted by africanpress on January 28, 2007
Beryl is reacting to Kanda’s commentary.
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January 25th, 2007 at 5:17 pm e
Thank you so much Mr. Kanda for your observations.
I personally find their recent reasoning lacking in credibility. Osewe has severally alleged that YLK are anti culture and tradition, a fact that he totally misses on. What he doesn’t understand is that culture or no culture there is an individual, who must admit everything else, coin her/himself out of all the societal definitions and find her/himself; thereby choosing what to carry on and what to discard. Anyone with an inability to do this is a miserable loser. Am sure God gets quite disappointed at the likes of Osewe who have continuously refused to use their brains and individual minds to decide over their lives….it makes me wonder how they would be today if we didn’t have the past generations putting down the traditions. Would they be living in a hollow society without directions because their was no one to put them down earlier own.
Mr Odero has recently alleged that the Young Liberated Kenyans started fiercely and have been silenced by them; a matter that makes me laugh out loud. What these people have completely failed to realise is that YLK objectives was not in anyway to wage a war with KSB but to pass our concerns and feelings across, which we did, which we are proud of and which we would do again and again should there be need in future. But we also happen to have lives outside Mr. Maggero’s death and we have every intention of continuing with it, as we have already done unlike them who would probably having nothing to go back to. Its funny how well some people can thrive in controversy. We let our stance be known publicly and showed our support and understanding for the Maggero’ family…….a fight with words was the least of our intentions….hope they can one day get this into their seemingly narrow minds.
And at the end of the day, Maggero’s family have seen the light of day…or haven’t they? There will was done, they gave Jaduong’ Maggero exactly the kind of Send-off that they had envisioned and intended and Maggero was long laid to rest, to me this was Victory on our part. Why would we want to continue in a fight with KSB. I would suggest that we wait until next during the memorial; hopefully the family have something even more ‘anti-cultural’ which will blow Osewe and his allies off; then we may have something to chip in on once again…but until then, we will continue celebrating our victory while the friends of KSB can leak their wounds after this miserable failure. I however wish them a quick recovery and really pray that they find their lives someday.
Intelligent people like me know how to choose from the various practices; only those practices that are relevant to my individual life thereby discerning the rest. It is naive and stupid to hold on to all cultural and traditional practices, even when you have a different view on them. One factor that I have said before and will repeat is that traditions and cultures are not natural, they are man-made that were designed by the previous generations to aid life. Given the non-static nature of the society, it is impossible and stupid to try to hold on to practices that may have been relevant and applicable then, but aren’t today. People must learn to be logical and while culture is good to uphold and celebrate, individuality is a great part of development and therefore individual preferences must be upheld, respected and celebrated.
By Beryl
Published by African Press in Norway, africanpress@chello.no, tel +47 932 99 739
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